I am an existential
I believe we are all working to make meaning out of life as we find it: all the joy and grief, connection and loss, attachment and isolation, freedom and responsibility, truth and lies.
I believe that these deep concerns commonly present themselves to us as surface issues like anxiety, depression, addiction, and relationship difficulties.
I believe that therapy should be a safe, welcoming place for people to work through their deep concerns, and so resolve the presenting problems.
I am a Christian existential therapist.
My first call is to Love.
I am called to love the Lord my God, and to love my neighbor as myself.
My client is my neighbor. I am called to love.
I am not my client's ultimate source for love. God is the source, for both of us.
Love demonstrates itself in therapy by understanding; understanding comes by hearing.
I will listen, to words and to silence and to tears.
I will be patient while important realizations and significant emotions emerge.
I intend for my words to be life-giving.
I will point out the lies that destroy life and create bondage.
I will speak the truth in love, because the truth sets us free.
I will be trustworthy. I will face my own pain. I won't ask my clients to do what I won't do.
The client always has the freedom to choose.
The best power I have to employ in therapy is my relational self, and not my so-called expertise.
My power belongs beside my client, and not over her.
Existential therapy can be slow, as we work toward deep healing.
We process the process. We observe patterns in therapy; we talk about triggers happening right now.
Slow progress doesn't mean it's not working. God is working, and we trust Him together.
People get hurt in relationships, and people get healed in relationships.
May this relationship be a place of healing, hope and freedom.