Boundaries define what’s me and what’s not me.
What’s okay with me, what’s not okay with me.
When I am practicing good boundaries, I see myself as a whole person, able to make healthy choices for myself, to say yes to what I want and to say no to what I don’t want. I see others the same way.
When I am practicing good boundaries, I respect myself, and I respect others.
It sounds so simple, but we all know how hard that can be in real life.
We find ourselves going along to get along, until we’ve gone so far we have no idea who we are any more.
In our quest to be kind and nice and helpful, we find ourselves catastrophically angry at all the other people who just aren’t doing enough. All the help and support we give to others doesn’t come back to us when we need it.
Our relationships feel uneven, unfair, off kilter.
We’re way too busy, we’re overcommitted, we’re running on empty.
We know we need to say “no” to some things because we’ve lost the ability to say “yes” to what’s truly meaningful and life-giving for us.
If any of that sounds familiar, then it’s probably time to assess and adjust our boundaries.
Again, that’s easier said than done, right? We might know what we need to do, but it’s hard to actually do it.
So the question is: how do we turn our bright ideas about good boundaries and into real, true, healthy living?
In my experience, real change in our lives comes through support from like-minded people, those who can stand with us and cheer us on as we do the next right thing.
I have significant personal experience with boundaries, grown out of the desperation of my own life choices that left me running on empty. I have a decade of professional experience as a therapist, supporting clients in their boundary goals.
So here’s the big idea:
I want to turn my personal and professional experience into a thirty-day online practice community for those of us who know we need support with our boundaries.
The format will be simple: a short daily video like the one below, a daily writing prompt, and support through a private Facebook group. I’ve designed the video and writing portion to take about 30 minutes each day, and then you can spend as much time as you want in the group, sharing and interacting with others.
If a 30-day boundaries practice with like-minded community sounds like just what you need, follow this link to sign up for the course.
I hope to see you soon!